maternity leave

AMEN to that!!!!  It is a shame mothers have to work at all until their children are off to school all day and then you should beable to have free p/u from and to school if necessary.  I was lucky and able to be at home until my youngest started school.  The amount of things you can teach a child at home and to have them recognize manners,right /wrong, - all the things you see alot of children not having anymore.  Alot of children don't know what respect, honesty, morals even mean today.  They don't have time in daycare to teach all that on a basis a child needs.  Figure out what your expenses are for day care, transportation,extras you would spend if not working and figure if it is really worth it and if you can make it without the little extra working will give you - then stay home - you will be happy you did even if you have to look for a new job.  It is alot harder now than when my children were young, but I am glad I gave up my job - by the time my kids were ready for school, I had different ideas what I wanted to do for work anyway and wouldn't have gone back to my old job if they paid me.

I am fortunate to stay home as well.  Money is tight and will be no matter what, unless everyone realizes to cut back drastically. I have a job, parttime. I am a dental hygienist and it allows me to be flexible. Right now I work once/ month. I love my job, I look forward to going, to get away from the everyday. Most of all I love being mommy, even with all the back talking and rolling of the eyes. It makes me love them more.  I know they are challenging me, but only to find were they fit it the family. They know that mom and dad are doing what is best for them. Lord willing they will learn from us and one day understand how crazy it is to be a parent.

Dear Lord, Watch over me and guide me to do what you want and not what I think is best. Guide me to teach my kids about you and your will.  Thank you for lending them to us, I pray we are teaching them well. Amen

There would be allot less crime if there were respect, honesty and morals.  We need to take a stand for our morals.  Allot of passing the buck to the teachers, if parents would stop complaining " it is so hard", and just parent then it wouldn't be so hard. Discipline is biblical, children thrive on it. structure is also needed. Start your children at a young age. Timeouts started at 1 yr in our house. Then Constancy is very important. 

 

I totally agree. I am fixing to be a mom of three. 9 days left. After I had my second son in April of 2007, I had to go back to work after only 10 days.

Thats so true i know so many moms and starting working from home so that they can spend as much time possiable with their new little one. Im a stay at home mom so i dont really have to worry about work since i have two step kids and a baby on the way i only got 5 weeks and 3 days tell my due date and i cant wait to hold my son. Its crazy cause even men are aloud to take maternity leave now they get as long as women get only 12 weeks.

Hey!!!!  I completely sympathize.  Let's not forget, there are stay at home father's as well ladies!!!!   (That's me!!!!)  I have the blessing to work for myself.  My fiance did not want to stay at home, she is a busy-body, I jumped at the chance.  The little guy and I are best friends, I love it.  Yes, ladies should have more time off of work after having a miracle!!!

I don't have children, but I TOTALLY GET IT! I think the way our culture has shifted is a real shame. We have placed such high demands on females to return to work or they will not be compensated and/or lose their job. How has the world become so uncaring? I DO want kids one day, but my husband and I are honest with ourselves and not having any because we don't have money or time for them. We both work, and there is no way we could pay for daycare. I don't want my children always at a daycare like I was. My mom had to work overtime to make ends meet with my family. I guess my biggest fear is that I won't be bringing a life into this world under great conditions. If it's going to be THAT hard, no thank you! It's a sad, sad world we live in. Women have earned their right to have longer maternity leaves, but they are being denied that privilege.

You are right.  It's so hard to leave them when they are so little - they need their mommies (and Daddies Jeeperpilot!)  I had my first son in CA where I got 6 months off paid and job security.  Had my second in IL with not as much time on the job so I only got 6 weeks.    

I'm gonna be the bad guy here- is it really fair to a company to have to keep your job open for a whole year?  Is it fair to job seekers to not be able to get a job because companies are holding positions for their new mommies to return?  Or are you not necessarily expecting your company to hold your job for that long?  Just a thought, no offense nor hard feelings meant.

IanRocketMan said…

I'm gonna be the bad guy here- is it really fair to a company to have to keep your job open for a whole year?  Is it fair to job seekers to not be able to get a job because companies are holding positions for their new mommies to return?  Or are you not necessarily expecting your company to hold your job for that long?  Just a thought, no offense nor hard feelings meant.

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Good point, mate! 

wow.

maybe that's what's wrong. the world have become too competitive and less caring. that's sad.

Sorry, I wasn't intending to come off as uncaring.  But Ianrocketman has a valid point.  Companies shouldn't be made to hold a slot for someone for a year, especially if they need someone filling that slot and have good candidates waiting for a job.  Do you see what I mean?  I am all for women being able to take time off to spend with their children and then be allowed back at their old job, just not for a year!  That seems excessive. 

jessbueto said…

wow.

maybe that's what's wrong. the world have become too competitive and less caring. that's sad.

 

 

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Well, they are men, jessbueto. :P

I absolutly love being a stay at home mom and would not have it any other way. I know this can sound strange to some people, but i just don't feel comfortable with anyone including family to keep my infant on a all day daily basis. No one can care, love, and teach your children the way that a mother can. The bond that you have with your children is awesome. It also makes it easier on everyday baby baby things like potty training. if you are the one home with them being consistant with them, they will catch on much faster. I had someone ask me one day how do so many of the children at your church stay quiet in church and are potty trained. I said b/c a good portion the mothers are stay at home and they are able to devote the time needed to do those kinds of things at an ealier age on a more consistant basis. I totally wouldn't have it any other way. I do understand that it is not possible for some families for the mother to stay home due to financial reasons. Don't get me wrong it is tight for us but it is worth it.

YOU ARE SO RIGHT! After having my daughter her father and i got a place together when my daughter was 2 weeks he got laid off! When my daughter was only 2 1/2 weeks old i had to go back to work! I was miserable, I cried for a hole month, my first day back to work I felt like I was the worst person, i would see a baby annd i would cry. Maybe not even a year aleast 6 months! GREAT POST

 

Other countries have figured it out, why can't the states. In Canada you get a year off and your job is filled by a temp, which works well for everyone, because the temp gets a year commitment and the possibility to stay on after, since a lot can change in a year, and the mother gets the rightfully deserved time to nurture the baby. It is recognized world-wide that babies are smarter, stronger and better developed when they are breast fed for at least a year and they have bonded with an adult their first year of life. What American companies can't understand (or actually really don't care about) is that it is better for society as a whole to have it's children nurtured this way - it leads to a brighter, stronger workforce down the road. But companies are concerned with their dollars right now... to which I say thank goodness at least for the few laws we have protecting new mothers as if you left everything to business, women would be kicked out on their butts.

Very interesting topic i love the discussions. I will be having my angel soon and im willing to take 3months of unpaid leave. i would feel horrible if i have to go back to work after only 6wks...the baby is still very tiny( its sad to see that). i think moms should be given atleast 3months paid and hold their jobs for atleats 6months if they wish to stay.

I work when I was pregnant until 8 months, then I have maternity leave and i stay at home breastfeeding my son, and after 1 year I return to work but I work only part time,  Im so happy because Im so bond with my baby and I love him so much.

The idea of having 3-6 months paid leave is a great idea but that doesnt seem reasonable especially for some of the military men that dont have kids. They dont know what its like to have to go through the pregnancy terms and most of them (the selfish ones) would deem it unfair. I had my baby in January and I was out of work from mid December till the beginning of March and most people that that was entirely too long. Everyones case of labor is not the same. For instance, I went into pre-mature labor in December at 34 weeks. I was assigned bed rest until the baby was born. I was told the baby would be born in February but instead she came in January. Now that time onto of the time the military gives you for having a baby people wanted to argue it.

I loved the time off and the bonging with my daughter. I agree to being able to have alot more time than the government provides.

i'll be having a baby soon and our company would only allow 2months leave for normal delivery and thats unpaid btw but anyway maybe i can use those time to look for a job which i can balance my work and taking care of my baby at the same time without pressure :)